Take a minute and reflect on life. Not your life, or any life in particular, but the journey of life itself. What’s the point? Is there one? Does there need to be?

While I’m sure there are many answers to these questions, many people have one thing in common. They want to live a good life.

The beauty is that means different things to different people. It leaves space for any kind of life. A simple life or one of plenty. A life of isolation or connection?

Throughout our lives, we face hundreds of questions like these. Sometimes we make a decision. Other times we let our sub-conscious decide. Far too often we avoid the question all together.

I try to avoid the latter because I believe inherent to living a good life is living a life of my choosing.

The first step is to take the reins. Admit to yourself and the world that you have a choice in how you live your life. You can’t control how it plays out, but you sure as hell can control how you approach it. Where you put your time, energy, and attention. Who you surround yourself with. Your attitude and how you view the many things that happen in your life.

It’s going to take some work. We all need to be intentional in our pursuit of a good life. We need to have an idea of where we’re hoping to go.

Start by asking yourself some questions. It’s easy. Grab a pen and paper. Find a quiet place. Take ten minutes and write.

  • What do you want to spend your time on?
  • Who is most important to you?
  • What do you want to achieve? Why? Why? Why?
  • When it’s all over and you’re looking back on your life, what will you be most proud of?

We can’t script our lives. There are too many variables and uncertainties that are out of our control. But answering questions like these allows us to direct what we can control (actions, mindsets, and beliefs) towards building a life we want. If you value deep relationships, build them wherever you are. If you are driven by material things, create a life that lets you get your fill. If you’re happiest when traveling, make that a priority.

Commit to how you want to live your life. Prioritize the things that light you up and elevate them regardless of where the road takes you. And keep in mind the wise words of Jonathan Fields – “A good life is not a place at which you arrive, it’s a lens through which you see and create your world.”